Love is the foundation for a lasting marital relationship and is often described as the most powerful of the forces of destiny, faith and hope being the other two. It binds families, fosters friendships, and forms the cornerstone of durable marital relationships. One of my spiritual fathers warned me when I was about to choose a life partner that marriage is a love affair; after thirty -five years in marriage and still counting I have come to appreciate this truth.

Marriage is a relationship built on giving and receiving. It involves selfless dedication of your time, your spirit, soul and body to each other. In marriage, love is essential for fully giving yourself to each other without reservation. This is built on mutual respect. The God kind of love, known as AGAPE, is a selfless and unconditional bond that goes beyond physical attraction and feelings. A marriage built on Agape love as the foundation will be durable as well as nurture trust, respect, and mutual understanding.

Marriage is a covenant relationship according to the scriptures. Malachi 2:14 (ESV) … Because the Lord was witness between you and the wife of your youth, to whom you have been faithless, though she is your companion and your wife by covenant. A covenant is a bond, and hinges on terms referred to as the terms of the covenant. Understanding your responsibilities to each other is important as marriage is not designed to be one sided as some people are inclined to think.

In the marriage relationship the terms of the covenant are the responsibilities of the parties towards each other and love is what helps you carry out your responsibilities. The man has the responsibility as the head to lead, protect, serve and provide for his home. Love is the sceptre for rulership as Jesus demonstrated and taught in Luke 22:26 (ESV)… Rather, let the greatest among you become as the youngest, and the leader as one who serves.

The woman on the other hand has the responsibility to support her husband in the home and she does this by submission. It takes love to willingly submit to the authority of your husband.

Therefore, at the heart of every marital relationship must lie a deep, abiding love that goes beyond the superficial. This love is not just about the initial spark of attraction but is a deliberate and continuous commitment to care for another person. It involves a profound sense of commitment, where the partners prioritize each other’s happiness and well-being with a sense of responsibility and love. This is what will create a safe space where individuals can be their true selves, free from judgment and fear.

CALL TO ACTION:

• Reflect today on what marriage is to you. Is it a casual or a covenant relationship? Covenants are not to be broken.
• Pray and ask God to help you understand the importance of covenants.
• Decide what your values and attitude towards marriage will be. Will it be as dictated by God or the world?
• Remember, if you follow God’s principles in building your relationships, you will be preserved by God from evil.