While travelling to visit my children and grandchildren, I
had a 12-hour layover at Hamad International Airport in Doha. Needing
a place to rest, I approached an airport officer and said, "I have a
waiting time of 12 hours and need help."
He asked what ticket I had, and when I mentioned business
class, he immediately directed me to the Business Class Lounge,
where I was introduced to the Quiet Zone - a peaceful space where you
can pray, read, and relax. Throughout the conversation, the officer kept
telling me, "Just ask for anything you need!"
It was by asking that I discovered this oasis of
rest, and the few hours I spent there turned out to be as refreshing as
staying in a hotel. Those hours were productively used — simply because
I asked.
In the business world,
a similar principle has transformed companies:
- McDonald's
increased profits dramatically just by asking, "Would you like
fries with that?"
- Amazon
boosts sales through "Frequently Bought Together" suggestions.
- Starbucks
sells larger sizes by simply asking if you'd like to upgrade.
- Apple
offers accessories at checkout, increasing sales effortlessly.
The
principle is simple: You often miss out — not
because it's unavailable — but because you didn't ask.
In
marriage, many frustrations, unmet needs, or missed
opportunities happen because couples don't feel free to ask.
- Ask for help
when you're overwhelmed.
- Ask for time together
when you miss each other.
- Ask for forgiveness
when hurt lingers.
- Ask for dreams,
affection, clarity — and give your partner
the liberty to do the same.
In a
healthy marriage, "asking" should be safe, welcomed, and encouraged.
No partner should feel judged, ignored, or belittled when they make a request.
Create an environment where asking is a bridge to understanding — not a
trigger for conflict.
Remember:
A simple question can unlock a beautiful response — if you will just ask.
The bible says Matthew
7:7&8 Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and
it shall be opened unto you: For every one that asketh
receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be
opened.
“It is
demand that produces supply” If this is true in our
relationship with God, how much more valuable is it between husband and wife? A
breakthrough in marriage often begins with one brave question. Create a space
where asking is celebrated, not criticised. Just ask — and just listen!
Call to
Action:
This
week, be intentional:
- Ask
your spouse about one thing you’ve been holding back.
- Invite
your spouse to ask you anything without fear of judgment.
- Commit
to celebrating openness — not punishing it.
You may be one question
away from a breakthrough in your relationship!
Strong
marriages are built on trust, openness, and the freedom to ask without fear.
Create a culture where no request feels like a burden. Just ask — just listen —
just love.