Research indicates that each person influences approximately 10-15 people daily through their interactions, words, and actions. This is often called the "social circle of influence." Additionally, a study by Noah Mark (2003) estimated that the average person impacts around 250-300 people over their lifetime. This highlights that every interaction has the potential to influence others, and these influences can extend far beyond our immediate circle!
As
an individual, you have the power to influence people either positively or
negatively. However, choosing to be a positive influence is a conscious
commitment we must make in our relationships. It involves living a life that
reflects God's love, kindness, and compassion towards others, and in marriage,
towards our partner.
By
choosing to be a positive influence in your marriage, you can foster a safe and
supportive environment for your partner to thrive. This involves applying the
right principles to create a positive, nurturing, and dynamic relationship that
benefits both you and your marriage.
The
relationship of Ruth and Boaz illustrates several key principles that can
positively influence a marriage. Embracing and cultivating these principles as
individuals can help you become a positive influence on your partner in the
marriage:
1.
Loyalty and Commitment: Ruth's unwavering loyalty to her mother-in-law Naomi,
and eventually to Boaz, shows the importance of commitment in relationships.
Despite the difficult circumstances, Ruth chose to stay with Naomi, saying,
"Where you go, I will go, and where you stay, I will stay. Your people
will be my people and your God my God" (Ruth 1:16, NIV).
2.
Kindness and Respect: Boaz showed great kindness and respect towards Ruth,
recognising her sacrifices and hard work. He ensured her safety and provided
for her needs, saying, "May the Lord repay you for what you have done. May
you be richly rewarded by the Lord, the God of Israel, under whose wings you
have come to take refuge" (Ruth 2:12, NIV).
3.
Generosity and Protection: Boaz went beyond what was required by the law to
protect and provide for Ruth. He instructed his workers to leave extra grain
for her to gather and ensured that she was safe while working in his fields
(Ruth 2:15-16).
4.
Integrity and Honour: Boaz acted with integrity and honour in his dealings with
Ruth and in his role as a kinsman-redeemer. He followed the proper procedures
to marry Ruth, ensuring that everything was done according to the law and with
respect for the other kinsman-redeemer (Ruth 4:1-10).
5.
God's Providence: The story of Ruth and Boaz highlights God's providence and
blessing on those who act with faithfulness and integrity. Their union
eventually led to the birth of King David, placing them in the lineage of Jesus
Christ (Matthew 1:5-6).
This
positive influence from the scriptures provides a strong foundation for
building a harmonious and enduring partnership. By following the example of
Ruth and Boaz, couples can cultivate loyalty, kindness, respect, generosity,
integrity, and faith in God's plan for their marriage.
CALL TO ACTION:
·
Make a commitment to
strengthen your relationship today by building trust and deepening your
connection with your partner.
·
Identify areas where
you can improve your relationship with your spouse.
·
Surprise your partner
with a small gift, offer help with a task, or write them a love note.