SEX IN MARRIAGE - By Dele Bamgboye (Guest Writer)

26 Jun 2026
Day 14
Proverbs 5:15-20 NLT

Sex is a covenant act designed for the confines of marriage, reflecting God's order and intention. In today's sex-crazed world, many people engage in sexual relationships outside of marriage, with both married and unmarried partners. However, to fully experience the benefits of sex, we must adhere to the principles of God’s word.

Sex connects people on a deeper level than just the physical, as it represents the height of vulnerability. This connection extends to the soul and the deepest spiritual realms. As stated in 1 Corinthians 6:16, "Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body?" This profound truth emphasises the importance of understanding sex’s role within marriage.

Married couples must recognise that sex is more than just a physical act; it is a blessing and a gift from God. Among its benefits, sex serves as the seal of oneness between husband and wife. Each time a couple engages in sexual intimacy, they reinforce their unity and deepen their bond.

Sex should be an expression of love and intimacy, not a tool for bargaining or control. It should never be withheld as a means of manipulation or punishment. Instead, sex within marriage should bring pleasure and glorify God.

To handle sexuality in a way that honours God, maintain pure thoughts rather than fantasies, uphold strong values, and stay accountable to your spouse and a mature Christian of the same sex. If you struggle, seek help and prayer from a trusted friend or group of mature Christians.

Walking in wisdom regarding sexuality is essential for a healthy and God-honoring marriage. Engaging in sex according to God's word strengthens your relationship and glorifies Him.

 

CALL TO ACTION:

  1. Reflect on the Purpose of sex in marriage: Understand the deep spiritual and emotional connection that sex brings within marriage.
  2. Honour God's Design: Commit to keeping sexual intimacy within the bounds of marriage, adhering to God’s principles.
  3. Foster Intimacy: Use sex to deepen the bond with your spouse, not as a tool for control or manipulation.
  4. Seek Accountability: If you struggle, be open and seek support from a mature Christian friend or group.
  5. Glorify God: Ensure that your thoughts, actions, and attitudes regarding sex align with God’s word and bring glory to Him.